Am I a Good Father?

Well my first Fathers Day is quickly approaching. I look back at the past 10 months and wow time has sure gone by fast. It seems like just yesterday we were in the delivery room laying my eyes on her for the first time. Louisa is a great mom and from time to time she will give me grief about needing to help out more around the house.

The biggest problem is the extra curricular activities that keep me out of the house in the evenings. I have been very active in both the Knights of Columbus and Scouts. Louisa is with Bethany all day while I am at work and she looks forward to me coming home after work to give her a break. So it is no wonder that she doesn't like me being out so much.

So I decided to make some changes to make sure that I am around a little more. For the Knights of Columbus I have taken on a different position on the executive, one that doesn't involve as much work at home. No more writing up the minutes and no more doing the Rosarium (council newsletter). Also with my new position if I am unable to make it to the meeting I won't feel that I am letting the council down as my new position isn't as key.

And for Scouting I have tendered my resignation as the Group Commissioner. This was a tough one as Scouting is so very dear to me. But I had to be honest with myself, that I am not really able to commit the amount of time necessary to do a proper job. So I did what was necessary and I stepped down. I hope to be able to stay involved in some capacity, we will see.

Parenting involves sacrifices and up until now I havn't had to make many but the time has come that I make sure I have my priorities in order.

I came across a survey at www.fathersforgood.org titled Am I a Good Father?

Here are the questions:

Answer each of the following statements honestly in relation to your fatherhood, placing one check for each statement to indicate: Strongly Agree, Agree, Disagree, Strongly Disagree.

This is not a scientific survey, and no one else will see your test score. It is designed to help you think about some important fatherhood issues and how you evaluate your strengths and weaknesses. Have fun, and learn.


I practice what I preach *
Strongly Agree Agree Disagree Strongly Disagree


I pray with my kids, and for them *
Strongly Agree Agree Disagree Strongly Disagree


I regulate TV time for my kids, and myself *
Strongly Agree Agree Disagree Strongly Disagree


I avoid any use of porn *
Strongly Agree Agree Disagree Strongly Disagree


They know they can come to me with questions *
Strongly Agree Agree Disagree Strongly Disagree


I look at their report cards *
Strongly Agree Agree Disagree Strongly Disagree


I set clear and consistent rules *
Strongly Agree Agree Disagree Strongly Disagree


I control my temper when disciplining *
Strongly Agree Agree Disagree Strongly Disagree


I listen and not just talk to my kids *
Strongly Agree Agree Disagree Strongly Disagree


I am home for family dinner *
Strongly Agree Agree Disagree Strongly Disagree


I respect my wife and show affection *
Strongly Agree Agree Disagree Strongly Disagree


My kids feel safe and secure with me *
Strongly Agree Agree Disagree Strongly Disagree


They know I am fair yet firm *
Strongly Agree Agree Disagree Strongly Disagree


I say I love them in word and deed *
Strongly Agree Agree Disagree Strongly Disagree


Thank you for completing this self-assessment. In general, those who are walking the path of the good father will answer mostly “Strongly Agree” and “Agree”.

How to not impress your Mother-in-law

Yea I know it has been a long time since I have posted any new blog posts. There have been many things that I wanted to post but never seemed to get around to it. Let me tell you a little story and then I will provide an update on what is going on in my life.

So my Mother-in-law is visiting and tonight I was going to BBQ some salmon on a cedar plank. Everything is going fine, I soaked the plank for 6 hours in preparation. I don't think she has ever had salmon cooked on a cedar plank and she was interested to see what I was doing. I was proud of myself and hoping she was a bit impressed with my cooking skills. Once the salmon was cooked I asked Louisa for an oven mitt so I could bring the salmon inside. Well I underestimated how hot the plank would be even though I was wearing an over mitt. After a few steps away from the BBQ it was starting to burn my hand so I attempted to place it back down on the BBQ. The salmon fillet slid right off and onto the ground with a big splat! I was very upset at myself and embarrassed at what I had done.

I was hungry as a bear as I had not eaten much all day and it was a little later than when we normally eat. Here I just ruined our main course. Fortunately there was still another half of a fillet left because we bought it at Costco. So Louisa's mom cooked that half in the oven. So it wasn't a total loss but I was so mad at myself.

Other than that things are good. Baby Bethany is due to come out in a few weeks. Can't wait to meet her. Louisa and I have done everything we can to prepare. Louisa has read countless books, we took the prenatal classes, went to a breast feeding seminar and even a cloth diaper consultation. The room is ready and all the baby clothes have been washed.

I am thrilled to become a dad. It is something that I have been looking forward to since I was probably a teenager. Not that I wanted to become a teenage dad, just that I knew that I wanted to be a father one day. It is such an exciting time right now. As I am sure any parent will know just knowing that you will become a parent you start to look at things differently.

I have always been a big music buff. I have tone of CD's and MP3's, all genres of music. Now when I listen to a song I am like "Oh I never realized that song had swear words in it" and I remove it from my playlists so I don't expose Bethany to it. I have even started a playlist for her with children's songs.

The summer is coming to a close soon which means all the activities will be starting up again. I have a meeting on Tuesday for the Knights of Columbus to start our fall planning and I will also be holding a Group Committee meeting for scouts to ramp up for the fall. Granted with Bethany coming I won't be able to do as much for the first couple of months. It will be interesting to see if I can manage to keep the right balance. One thing is clear to me, Louisa and Bethany have to come first.

I will try to post more often, if I can find time. I am sure I will have tons of things to blog about.

Update

I haven't written a blog entry in a while so I thought I would give an update on what is new.

Only a few days more before we get the new car. I am so excited. We are buying a red 2010 Toyota Matrix. So now we will have two vehicles which will be important once the baby comes and Louisa is on maternity leave. Plus when I have my meetings and activities for Scouts or Knights of Columbus I won't have to worry if Louisa needs the car.

Louisa and I have been talking about getting a filing cabinet for the basement. I have so many papers that it doesn't take long for the basement to look all messy. I am currently working with a 'pile' system. One pile for Scouting stuff, one for the Knights of Columbus, etc. A filing cabinet sure will be helpful.

My boss will be out of the office all week. He is going down to Las Vegas for a Trade Show. Originally I was supposed to go as well but that was before the company started to cut down on their travel budgets. Assistant Buyers are no longer eligible for International travel. Oh well.

I will be recertifing my first aid this week through work. Which is very convenient because my certification is due for renewal. The last time was paid for by my previous employer and now Costco will be paying.

Louisa is doing well with the pregnancy. She is either very happy and laughing or in discomfort due to her changing body. I want to celebrate Mothers Day but she doesn't seem to be big on the idea. She says she isn't a mother yet. Plus our wedding anniversary is the next weekend. We are planning on a overnighter a couple hours away to celebrate.